Living Without a Net
No one said life was going to be fair. Or easy, for that matter. But it’s what we’ve got and we deal with it the best we can, right?
From getting up in the morning knowing you have to go to a job you just don’t love, to kids, family, co-workers, traffic jams, new illnesses and diseases to be concerned about …whatever your particular challenge, it’s fair to say that others have been through it also. Some handle it with more grace and ease than others, certainly. And the extremity of our situations varies. Speaking for myself, I have experienced all the above mentioned situations and then some. For years, I’ve put one foot in front of the other, going through the motions only to be faced with the same situation the next day. Sometimes, soldiering through another day just doesn’t seem possible. Then one day the big realization occurred: Things and situations don’t just change. It is ME who has to change in order to change the circumstances!
I wish I could say that this revelation happened overnight, but that’s just not true. For me, situations often become pretty unbearable before I become convinced that I can do something about them. People, books, radio programs, lyrics, etc. all say that change must begin with me. Yes, yes, that’s all well and good…for you. But me, I need some reassurance, some guarantee, something that can convince me that everything will work out all right.
The wait can be quite long before these reassurances appear. In fact, sometimes they don’t appear at all. So, when the pain of not changing becomes worse than the pain of staying the same, I have jumped in and moved forward, without much of a clue as to how things will work out.
I call this living life without a net.
Since I made the choice not to work in a traditional job full time, things have worked out pretty well. We still have a roof over our heads, and enough food and clothing. Cars, gas and paying the bills on time are where I feel the most challenged. However, I’m here to report that I am a much happier person for making many difficult changes.
And most importantly, I’ve learned that I actually have what is most important for living without a net: Faith.
So far, it’s worked out pretty well.